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Wed., Oct. 31, 2012

Wed., Oct. 31, 2012

I’ve decided to use this blog to share with you some of my weekly learnings from my

Positive Psychology course. I welcome conversation around any of this material and hope that you find it helpful.

The current "module" we’re in has to do with Change, and this week I’ve been reading about some of the latest findings in brain research, which have real implications for how change is possible.

Up until the past few years, it was thought that our brains pretty much finished growing and changing by the time we were 3 years old, with a few alterations up through puberty. Now we know that the brain is, in fact, "plastic," that is, it is possible to build new neural pathways up until we die. In a fascinating book by Doidge, called The Brain That Changes Itself, story after story is told about how seemingly hopeless cases–people with brain injuries or diseases–were able to re-route neural pathways from injured areas of their brain to other areas, which took up the functions of the injured areas, through persistent therapies and exercises.

In the context of Positive Psychology, this offers real hope in the possibility of not only dealing with conditions, like depression, even schizophrenia, without the use of pharmaceuticals, but also reinforces the effectiveness of certain behaviors that can bring about real change. Research has shown that our level of happiness is about 50% due to genetics, 10% to our environment or situation, and 40% to the choices we make in our thinking and our behavior. That means we can intentionally make a big difference in our level of happiness by choosing certain behaviors and ways of thinking over others AND by doing so, can actually change the neural pathways in our brains.

For example, I may be prone to being a "fault-finder" or seeing the glass half-empty. By writing down 3 or 4 or 5 things that I’m grateful for every night for a month, I can actually begin to re-wire my brain so that I may become more of a "benefit-finder," and begin to see the glass as half-full. I begin to notice things during the day that I’m grateful for, notice not only the things that bother me about a person or situation, but also the things that I appreciate and find hopeful.

As I get older, I find this research to be especially hopeful, as I do not have to resign myself to a steady downhill decline in brain function! Maybe this means that even though I forget names and even words occasionally, there’s a good chance that with exercise and the other behaviors I choose to engage in, [and with genes from my 93-year-old-still-walking-6-miles-a-day mom] I may very well be able to carry on a fairly intelligent conversation for many more years.
“Daring Greatly”--Mark 10: 46-52-- Oct. 28, 2012

“Daring Greatly”--Mark 10: 46-52-- Oct. 28, 2012

The title of this morning’s sermon comes from a speech by Theodore Roosevelt, which was entitled “Citizenship in a Republic,” given in Paris, France in April, 1910.  It’s also the title of Dr. Brene Brown’s most recent book, which I am in the midst of pondering and devouring.

Here’s the passage from Teddy Roosevelt’s speech–
“It is not the critic who counts; not the [person] who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better.  The credit belongs to the [person] who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself [or herself] in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he [or she] fails, at least fails while daring greatly...”

Bartimaeus was the man in the arena, his eyes clouded over, probably, from one of the many diseases of the eye common in those days; whose only resort had been to sit by the side of the road outside of Jericho and beg.  His cloak, his only possession, was wrapped around him as some protection from the cold, with its hem spread out around him to catch the few coins thrown his way.

He may have been blind, but he wasn’t deaf, thanks be to God, and he could hear what people were saying about Jesus of Nazareth.  How he healed the blind and the lame, how he had opened the deaf man’s ears, how he had stood up to those of the scribes and Pharisees who wanted to hush him from teaching with such authority and such power.  Bartimaeus may have been blind, but he wasn’t deaf.  He knew what people were saying now, and what the prophets had said about the one they called “Son of David.”

So, when he heard the crowd coming down the road and heard them talking about Jesus of Nazareth, Bartimaeus knew that this was his moment.  If ever he was going to engage with his life, if ever there was a time to show up in his life, now was the time.  He had nothing to lose, except his life at the side of the road, listening while the world and the life he knew he was meant to live passed him by.

So “he began to shout out, ‘Jesus, Son of David, have mercy on me!’  Many sternly ordered him to be quiet.”  Of course they did.  He knew they would.  People don’t like it when someone who’s become part of the architecture, who’s been a landmark along the side of the road, starts to move and shout for attention.  “But he cried out even more loudly, ‘Son of David, have mercy on me!’”

And, oh my God, “Jesus stood still and said, ‘Call him here.’” Life responds to those who dare to call it by name.  “Jesus stood still and said, ‘Call him here.’” And they called the blind man, saying to him, –now they said to him...!– ‘Take heart; get up, he is calling you.’  So, throwing off his cloak, he sprang up and came to Jesus,” his heart pumping, his mind racing, yet also strangely focused.  This was it.

“Then Jesus said to him, ‘What do you want me to do for you?’” And Bartimaeus, the blind man, said to him, ‘Rabbouni,’ [just like Mary did when she recognized Jesus in the garden on Easter morning]–Rabbouni, let me see again.’ Jesus said to him, ‘Go; your faith has made you well.’ Immediately he regained his sight and followed him on the way.”

The first time Brene Brown read the Roosevelt quote about the man in the arena, she thought, “This is vulnerability. Everything I’ve learned from over a decade of research on vulnerability has taught me this exact lesson.  Vulnerability is not knowing victory or defeat, it’s understanding the necessity of both; it’s engaging.  It’s being all in.

“Vulnerability is not weakness, [she writes] and the uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure we face every day are not optional.  Our only choice is a question of engagement.  Our willingness to own and engage with our vulnerability determines the depth of our courage and the clarity of our purpose; the level to which we protect ourselves from being vulnerable is a measure of our fear and disconnection.” (P. 2) “Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity, and change.”

The story of blind Bartimaeus is the last story in Mark’s gospel before Jesus rides into Jerusalem on an ass–talk about vulnerability!  Mark has skillfully crafted his story to sum up the journey so far, with echoes of the incidents and characters we’ve already met and heard of.  The disciples gathered around Jesus have been persistently blind, just not getting what Jesus was trying to tell them.  Yet here was “blind” Bartimaeus, who could see who Jesus was and who responded wholeheartedly.  The rich man who had followed all the commandments from his youth, who came to Jesus asking what he had to do to gain eternal life–or authentic life--, and when Jesus lovingly told him to go, sell all he had and give it to the poor, he turned away, broken-hearted, because he couldn’t bear that much vulnerability.  Bartimaeus, who only owned a cloak, threw even that away, risked everything, and ended up healed, whole, saved–all meanings of the word–and he followed Jesus on the way–on the way to Jerusalem, on the way to life, even though the road led through death.

And remember the woman who’d had the hemorrhage for 12 years who crept up to Jesus in the crowd and touched the hem of his robe and was immediately healed?  Remember her courage and her vulnerability when he asked, Who touched me? And even though she could have slipped away in the crowd, came forward and knelt at his feet.  Jesus said the same thing to her that he said to Bartimaeus, “Go, your faith has made you well [or whole].”

What is it you want to ask of Life? Or God? Or Jesus?  What would you do if you knew you might fail but it didn’t matter–not in the long run?  What would you risk if you knew that even though you might end up embarrassed or criticized or humiliated, that in the end, even if you failed, you are not a failure? That you are worthy of love and connection and joy?  What would you cry out if Jesus were coming down the road?  Would your cry be for healing or justice or peace or equality? (David Lose, workingpreacher.com, 10/21/12) What if you dared to call up the woman whose child has recently died, even if you didn’t know what to say? What if you connected to her?  What if you picked up the remote control and pressed “off” and said to your partner, “We need to talk”?  What if you connected?  What if you wrote that Letter to the Editor about what’s been burning a hole in your heart?  What if you connected to others who share that same heartburn, not to mention connecting to your true Self? What would you do?  What are you dying to dare greatly?

The story of Bartimaeus tells us that when we dare greatly, when we engage fully–show up fully–in our lives, we can be made whole–“the physical healing is only part of a more complete restoration.”  (Texts for Preaching, year B, p. 564) “What do you want me to do for you?” Jesus asked Bartimaeus.  “Rabbouni,” he said, “let me see again.”  And Bartimaeus saw, not just his hands in front of his eyes, but the face in front of him, looking into his eyes.  Not only his sight, but his vision was restored–the vision of what could be if he followed in the way, if we all followed in the Way of Jesus.

“It is not the critic who counts; not the [person] who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better.  The credit belongs to the [person] who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself [or herself] in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he [or she] fails, at least fails while daring greatly...”

Let us dare greatly–as men and women created in the image of God, and as a church, called to be the Body of Christ. Let us dare to live up to our calling, not to let our fears paralyze us, but to risk being used for a mighty, sacred purpose.  Surely that would be a Reformation to be celebrated.

Amen and amen.
Rev. Mary H. Lee-Clark
"A Tough Sell"-- Mark 10:35-45-- Oct. 21, 2012

"A Tough Sell"-- Mark 10:35-45-- Oct. 21, 2012

 

In Matthew’s gospel, it is the mother of James and John who makes the request of Jesus that her sons be seated at his left and his right when he comes into his glory. It’s the kind of thing you can imagine a mother doing, advocating for her sons.

But even in Matthew, as it does here in Mark, this request comes right after the third time that Jesus lets his disciples in on what lies ahead–"See," Jesus says, right before this morning’s passage, "See we are going up to Jerusalem, and the Son of Man will be handed over to the chief priests and the scribes, and they will condemn him to death; then they will hand him over to the Gentiles; they will mock him, and spit upon him, and flog him, and kill him; and after three days he will rise again."

So when James and John come forward and ask to speak with Jesus–you know, just you and us, Jesus- and say to him, "Teacher, we want you to do for us whatever we ask of you," we may be a little shocked at their boldness. And then when we hear what they want–"Grant us to sit, one at your right hand and one at your left, in your glory," it’s tempting to say, "Are you kidding? Did you just hear what he said (for the third time), what ‘glory’ awaits him?!"

To give James and John the benefit of the doubt, maybe they do get it, and are so scared and yet still trusting, that they’re looking for any security they can find. But my guess is that most of us react like the other disciples did, who, when they heard what the brothers had asked, were angry. Who do they think they are?

John Pilch, author of the series, The Cultural World of Jesus, explains the situation this way–

The group that Jesus gathered around himself is technically called a faction. Members of such a group each have a direct, important, and relatively strong relationship with the leader but very little knowledge of or relationship with each other.

In today’s story, James and John, two blood relatives, do something very normal and customary in this culture within factions. They jockey for a higher position of honor in the group and care nothing about the others. When Jesus receives his full measure of honor, these two brothers want a share in it by gaining the most prestigious positions next to him. In this culture, everything is always about honor.

(John Pilch, the Cultural World of Jesus, Year B, p. 151)

 

So, James and John are just acting out of what their culture has taught them about what is

important. Surely when Jesus "comes into his glory," it will be the glory that their culture imagines–on a throne raised up, with his most trusted advisors sitting on his left and his right, and from there he will rule over the earth, just like Caesar.

But Jesus knows better. "You do not know what you are asking," he says to them. "Are you able to drink the cup that I drink, or be baptized with the baptism that I am baptized with?" They answer without even thinking, it seems. "We are able." That’s where the old hymn comes from–"Are ye able, said the Master, to be crucified with me? Yes, we are able, our spirits are free..." Really? I’d like to think I could answer, "I am able," but I’m not so sure. "You do not know what you are asking,"Jesus says. "Are you able to drink the cup that I drink, or be baptized with the baptism that I am baptized with?"

Mark’s community, some 30 years after Jesus’ death, knows that cup which Jesus drank was the cup assigned to him by God, to be poured out for the life of others. James and John say they are willing to drink that same cup. Mark’s community knows that to be baptized with Jesus is to be submerged in a death like his, as well as to be raised in a resurrection like his. That’s what many of them had already experienced. They might want to urge James and John to think twice before answering so glibly.

While he was Dean of the Chapel at Duke University, William Willimon lamented to a group of students that they attracted so few students in their services at Duke Chapel.

"Go easy on yourself," said one of the students. "Duke is a very selective school with very bright students," she said. (I’m thinking, ‘Yeah, bright but not all that humble.’) "I think most of them are smart enough to figure out," she continued, "That if they gave their

lives to Christ, he would only make their lives more difficult. I think it’s amazing you get as many students to come to Jesus as you do." (William Willimon, Day 1.org, 2009)

"Do you know what you are asking?" Jesus asked James and John. "Are you able to drink the cup I drink or be baptized with the baptism that I am baptized with?" "I think it’s amazing you get as many students to come to Jesus as you do."

Really, when you think about it, isn’t it amazing that so many of us are here? Do we really know what we could be in for?

The late Dorothy Sayers wrote, "I believe it is a great mistake to present Christianity as something charming and popular with no offense....We cannot blink at the fact that gentle Jesus meek and mild was so stiff in his opinions and so inflammatory in his language that he was thrown out of church [well, the synagogue], stoned, hunted from place to place, and finally gibbeted as a firebrand and a public danger. Whatever his peace was, it was not the peace of an amiable indifference." (inward/outward, Church of the Savior, 10/16/12)

Do we really know where the journey with Jesus may take us? "Teacher, we want you to do for us whatever we ask of you," James and John said. That’s what a lot of us are seeking when we come to church. I’d like more convenient times; I’d like faster service; I’d like better or different or (fill in the blank) music; I’d like more comfortable seating; I’d like a more entertaining speaker; I’d like some return on my investment.

"You do not know what you are asking," Jesus said. "Are you able to drink the cup I drink or be baptized with the baptism that I am baptized with?" We may look around and say, "We need more members, or we’re going to die." Just what are we inviting those potential new members to? " "I think it’s amazing you get as many students [or as many people] to come to Jesus as you do."

Robin Meyers, author and pastor of Mayflower Congregational Church in Oklahoma City, writes in his book, The Underground Church, "We have almost entirely forgotten who we and what we are–a strange, peculiar, and dangerous people." (P. xiv.) Second Congregational Church–Strange? Peculiar? Dangerous? Or are we just hoping for the best seats?

Jesus called the disciples together after this little conversation and said to them,

You know that among the Gentiles those whom they recognize as their rulers lord it over them, and their great ones are tyrants over them. But it is not so among you; but whoever wishes to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wishes to be first among you must be slave of all. For the Son of Humanity came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life a ransom for many.

Not to be served, but to serve. "There is no smaller package in the world," wrote the late

William Sloane Coffin, "than a person who is all wrapped up in him or herself." It is important to take the time to "Know thyself," as both Socrates and Jesus said. It is important to take the time to discern what our unique strengths and gifts are and to nurture and develop them. That is what Positive Psychology calls "self-concordant goals"–figure out what your strengths are and what your passions are, and then live as much as possible in the place where they overlap. It’s the same with an institution like the church–we should assess what our strengths and assets are, as well as where the passions of our members lie, and then live out of that intersection.

But we must remember, both as individuals and as an institution, that we are given those gifts and strengths, even those passions, for a purpose–to serve. To serve the God of Love and Light, to serve our neighbors, both here and around the world. It ought to require something of us. It ought to demand sacrifice.

During last Sunday’s CROP Walk, one of the young women from the Interact Club developed a blister on her foot. She finally took off her shoes, boots actually, and walked barefoot. As she was walking and chatting with Bruce, he was telling her about some of the people for whom we were walking, who would be receiving some of the funds we were raising. "Then," the young woman said, "I’m actually walking barefoot in solidarity with them. Maybe next year," she said, thinking about it further, "we should all walk barefoot."

So many young people get it. They don’t trust a church that doesn’t ask anything of them, that doesn’t challenge them to dare something risky for an important cause, that doesn’t stand up to injustice, that is no different from any other social club. As that Duke student said, "I think most of them are smart enough to figure out that if they gave their lives to Christ, he would only make their lives more difficult."

As Robin Meyers says, many people say they are "spiritual but not religious" because they do not trust the church as an institution." (Ibid., p. 2) They do not trust an institution that claims to follow a single, homeless man that doesn’t house the homeless and feed the hungry, they do not trust an institution that claims to follow a man that was willing to give his life for others that doesn’t ask anything meaningful from them; let alone an institution that too often has betrayed the trust of the innocent and vulnerable, that has excluded and condemned, rather than reached out and been radically hospitable.

 

People thought Jesus was crazy, anddangerous. That’s the last thing most of us want others to think of us. We, like James and John, have learned the lessons of our culture well. But James and John, along with the other early followers of Jesus, did learn that Jesus was actually teaching them very different lessons, of a very different culture, the culture of the reign of God, very different from the culture of the Empire. And so they were, indeed, "strange, peculiar, and dangerous," so filled with the presence of this rabbi and the God he taught them about, that they were fearless, and there’s nothing more dangerous than someone’s who’s fearless.

So why should anyone join us? If it’s so strange, so peculiar, so dangerous, what’s the "good news"? We’ve got a number of good answers out on the board in 7 words or thereabouts. But, being a little more word-y, I might say that for all its sacrifice, its risk, its challenge, it’s the way to find out who you really are, who you were meant to be. It’s being part of a community of folks who are also searching for their true selves and who find that together they become much more than their individual parts. The way of Jesus gives us a rhythm to our weeks and year, a certain structure to our lives in the midst of an often chaotic and crazy calendar where the days run into each other and we never seem to be able to do or be enough. We are reminded here that we are "enough." We connect in this community with people of all different ages and stages, and we can be open about and even celebrate all those ages and stages. We celebrate the birth of a baby, a teenager’s accomplishment, two people committing their lives to each other, an honor bestowed upon one of our members by the wider community. We can even "celebrate" death, al-though that celebration often includes tears and sorrow shared together. But we know that even death is but one stage–and not the last-- on our journey with God.

So, if we’re perfectly honest, it is amazing that so many of us are here, given who it is we say we are following and the places he led his followers. Robin Meyers, again, issues the invitation to the "underground church," one which "reclaims the subversive way of Jesus." It’s the church "where there is no acceptable alternative to hope, no substitute for joy, and no excuse not to offer the same unconditional love to others that has been so freely lavished on us."

May we be part of that church and follow the subversive way of Jesus. Amen.

Rev. Mary H. Lee-Clark
CROP Walk 2012

CROP Walk 2012

CROP (Communities Responding to Overcome Poverty) Walk :

We had 7 Hoppers who raised $185.72! Way to go Hoppers!

We had 26 walkers who have raised $3,014.15 so far. If you have not given in your sponsorship or would still like to donate, it is not too late! See Nora Parsons. Thanks to all the walkers and sponsors! 25% comes back to our community to help with hunger in Bennington.

What does CROP mean? CROP means folks of our Church family walking together Sunday October 14, starting at 1pm at 2CC ... to take a stand against hunger in our world. It means that together we raise our awareness and that of our neighbors about the millions of people worldwide who live on the edge of subsistence, at the will of fragile economies.

CROP means folks of our church family who could walk outside to their cars, choose to walk 3.3 miles....SHOWING their solidarity with the many people who have to walk every day to get water, tend their fields and animals, to get to work or school, or to escape violence. CROP also means that those who sponsor our Crop walkers raise funds for international relief and development, to help people struggling to escape the crushing grip of poverty and powerlessness. Here in Bennington it means that we raise much-needed money for the Bennington Free Clinic and the Kitchen Cupboard (25% of what we raise is used right here in Bennington.

Whether CROP to you means walking or sponsoring someone, your actions mean something! You can make a difference. Please join us - see Janice Lerrigo or Sue Wiskoski to become a helper during the Crop Walk, a Walker, or become a Spirit Walker by supporting Walkers with $ and your prayers (their names will be on "feet" in Webster Hall).

For more on CROP walks click here CROP Hunger Walks - more stories

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"What about the poor?"-- Amos 5:6-7, 10-15, Mark 10:17-31-- Oct.14, 2012

"What about the poor?"-- Amos 5:6-7, 10-15, Mark 10:17-31-- Oct.14, 2012

 

It is Peak Season for politics, with a little over 3 weeks until Election Day. We are in the midst of Presidential and Vice-Presidential debates, with claims and counter-claims being made, and polls jumping up and down like some kind of irregular heart rate monitor.

Jim Wallis, author of several books, including God’s Politics–Why the Right Gets It Wrong and the Left Doesn’t Get It, and Editor-in-Chief of Sojourners Magazine, offered this analysis of both national parties–

As I carefully watched both the Democratic and the Republican conventions this summer

[and, I would add, as we watch the debates this fall], I realized, once again, how challenging and complicated it is to bring faith to politics.

For example, the phrase "middle class" was likely the most repeated phrase at the conventions. And even though both parties are utterly dependent on their wealthy donors (a fact they don’t like to talk about), they know that middle-class voters will determine the outcome of the election. Now, I believe a strong middle class is good for the country, but Jesus didn’t say, "What you have done for the middle class, you have done for me." Rather, Matthew 25 says, "What you have done to the least of these, you have done to me."

When your first principle for politics is what happens to the poor and vulnerable–and I believe that is the first principle for Christians–you keep waiting at conventions

[or debates]for those words and commitments. There were a few moments when the poor were briefly mentioned, but it certainly wasn’t a strong theme in Tampa or Charlotte. "Opportunity for the middle class" was an important word in both conventions this year, but Christians must be clear that creating new opportunities for poor children and low-income families is critical to us.

The conventions also talked a great deal about "success," but how we define that is very important. Is success mostly about how much money we make, defining the "American Dream" as being able to pass on more riches to our children than what our parents passed on to us? Or is success measured by how we as a nation prioritize, in our spending and political choices, the sick, the vulnerable, the weak, and the elderly? Is it determined more by the values we pass on to our children–evaluating our lives, and theirs, by how much we are able to help others?

(Sojourners Magazine,

Nov. 2012, p. 15)

The story of the rich man who comes to Jesus and asks what he must do to inherit eternal life is told in 3 of the 4 gospels. Matthew says that he was young, and Luke adds that he was a ruler. It has all the marks of a healing story, as the man comes and kneels before Jesus, making his request, and Jesus tells him to go, be healed, like he says to so many others. But I believe this is the only story where the person refuses the healing. "When he heard this [go and sell all you have and give it to the poor, then come, follow me], he was shocked and went away grieving, for he had many possessions."

And who of us wouldn’t have done the same thing? We are right there with the disciples who "were astounded and said to one another, ‘Then who can be saved?’" And even Jesus concedes, "For mortals it is impossible, but not for God; for God, all things are possible."

"Teacher, what must I do to inherit eternal life?" or, another way of putting that is, "What must I do to live an authentic life?" The man has clearly thrown his heart into "doing the right thing." He replies sincerely that he has kept all the commandments since his youth. Jesus can see this, see his sincerity, and, Mark alone adds, "Jesus loved him." But Jesus can also see what’s holding this man back from fully trusting, or, if you will, "believing in," God. It is his material wealth. It’s his crutch, his safety net, his hedge, against entrusting his life to God.

But just as the man has learned the lessons of his tradition, learned the commandments and the law, so he has learned its assumptions –that wealth is a reward for living righteously. God rewards the righteous and punishes the unrighteous, which is a slightly different way of putting what our culture assumes–wealth and success are the result of one’s own hard work and ingenuity, maybe a little luck, but those who are poor are that way because they’re lazy, shiftless, somehow to blame, they’re stupid, they prefer to "live that way." That despite the reality that in our country, many people are poor due to no fault of their own. One in four children live in poverty in the U.S. Is it their fault? Seven million Americans work two to three jobs and are twice as likely as the wealthy to give up sleeping to work. Are they lazy? The average food stamp benefit is $21/week. Would you choose that way of shopping if you could?

The perils of poverty are well documented–death by malnutrition or starvation, or, as seems to be more and more the case in our country, death by bad nutrition–by sugars and chemicals, resulting in obesity, sugar diabetes, and heart disease. All that with lack of access to health care, including, of course, no preventative health care. The perils of exposure from homelessness or inadequate housing. The loss of dignity and self-esteem. The peril of isolation, ridicule, disdain.

Jesus knew about the perils of wealth as well, however, and knew that this particular man was at risk–at risk of thinking he could somehow buy or earn an authentic life, or happiness, or salvation. At risk of thinking that authentic, or eternal, life is "an achievement earned or a commodity purchased rather than a gift gratefully received and shared," as one United Methodist bishop wrote (Kenneth Carder, Christian Century, 9/24-10/1/97, p. 831) At risk of confusing his–and our, for we are so like this rich man--our resources, our possessions, our status with our identity. At risk of becoming addicted to our stuff or to what our wealth can buy us – experiences, power, access, escape –and so they become more and more necessary, even impacting our health. "The problem with wealth," says Disciples of Christ pastor and author Bruce Epperly, " is that it isolates us from others. It buffers us against the suffering others experience and leads to false complacency about our own personal security....It often leads to rugged, uncaring individualism...where we are tempted to see [our] wealth as deserved, totally the result of [our own] efforts." (Process & Faith lectionary, 10/14/12)

Jesus knew that there were perils of both poverty and wealth; and he knew there were possibilities and blessings in both. "Blessed are you poor," he says in Luke’s gospel, "for yours is the kingdom of heaven." You know what it’s like to be utterly dependent upon God, to know your connection to and dependence upon others. And wealth, if it’s not hoarded but gratefully received as a gift to be shared, can be a tremendous vehicle for good, for relieving suffering, for building up, for creating and discovering. "Go, sell what you own, and give the money to the poor, [he told the man] and you will have treasure in heaven; you’ll be able to come and follow me, learn my way of living and enter into relationship with God, with others, and your true self." Life is not found in riches, but rather in God’s grace. That’s where your true identity and worth come from.

It’s simple but certainly not easy. "For mortals it is impossible," in fact, "but not for God; for God all things are possible." It’s not something we can do, but we might be open to God’s doing it through us. And it’s not just a choice for us in our individual lives but also a choice for us as a community and nation. Consider the opportunity we have each Sunday at least to get to know some of our neighbors from whom we might be isolated the rest of the week. Being part of a Sunday Supper team may take you into territory that makes you uncomfortable but which you also might find transforming. Walking in solidarity today in the CROP with some of the folks profiled by CWS may connect us with a brother or sister whose life is wrapped up in ours. Volunteering at the Kitchen Cupboard or the Free Clinic may be just what you need to discover deeper dimensions of life.

And as you consider who you will vote for this November, consider this from Jim Wallis–

All candidates, including Barack Obama and Mitt Romney, should be evaluated by the competing visions of what they are setting forth for the country, by their vastly different policy positions, and by their personal moral compass and how it will impact their leadership. For Christians, our election choices should always have most to do with protecting ‘the least of these’: [including] low-income individuals and families, undocumented peopled, who are in the biblical category of "the stranger," those most vulnerable to hunger and disease around the world, poor people most impacted by climate change, women and children being trafficked and exploited, and those who are victims of violence and the ‘collateral damage" of war."

(op cit., p. 18)

"Good Teacher, what must I do to inherit eternal life?" Is there one thing you lack, something that’s getting in your way of living a truly free, authentic life? If it seems overwhelming, that’s ok. With God, all things are possible.

 

Rev. Mary H. Lee-Clark

 
"A Complex and Complicating Web"-- Mark 10: 2-16-- Oct. 7, 2012

"A Complex and Complicating Web"-- Mark 10: 2-16-- Oct. 7, 2012

We know that there are some churches where divorced persons are not welcome-- not welcome at the communion table, or not welcome to attend at all. My guess is that used to be true at Second Congregational Church once upon a time, but, thankfully, I hope, that is no longer true here. I say "I hope" because I cannot speak from the perspective of one who may have felt welcome or not.

The divorce rate in the United States is now roughly 50%, that is, one in every two marriages will most likely end in divorce. The rate goes up for 2nd and 3rd marriages and varies by age of the persons who marry. One in two. With the possible exception of celebrities whose marriages have lasted a matter of moments or days, that represents a lot of heartache. I personally haven’t spoken to anyone who’s gotten a divorce who hasn’t had some regret or sadness, either because they got divorced or because they got married in the first place. There are also, frequently, expressions of shame or guilt, whether justified or not.

So, an argument could be made that I must be a little crazy to choose to preach on this text from Mark instead of the reading from Hebrews which talks about the supremacy of Christ or, better yet, some passage having to do with worldwide communion. But, on this communion Sunday, this passage may have something to tell us about the nature of communion and connection, and the cost of being connected, or, if you will, the cost of loving.

Once again, "the Pharisees"–the foil for Jesus in the gospels–have sent a delegation to test Jesus. "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?" And Jesus asks them in return, "What did Moses command you?" They rightly answer, "Moses allowed a man to write a certificate of dismissal and to divorce her." It’s true. The law in Deuteronomy allows a man whose wife "does not please him because he finds something objectionable about her," to write a certificate of divorce, give it to her, and send her out of his house, where, by the way, she is now without resources or home or protection. "Because of your hardness of heart he wrote this commandment for you," Jesus says.

It’s helpful to understand what marriage was in Jesus’ time, because it’s very different from our current Western culture. Biblical scholar John Pilch explains–

In the ancient Mediterranean world, marriages were between families. Each family selected a partner, union with whom was intended to bind the families together, forming a stronger unit. Just as children cannot choose their parents, so too children in this culture could not choose their marriage partners. God chose one’s parents, and through one’s parents God chose one’s marriage partner. Hence Jesus’ cultural truism about marriage: ‘What God has joined together, let no one separate.’

Even such a brief statement of the nature of Mediterranean marriages makes it evident why divorce would be unacceptable. Divorce is not just the separation of two partners but rather the separation of two families. In a society driven by the values of honor and shame, the family of the bride will be shamed. The bride’s male relatives in particular will have to bear the shame as well as the responsibility to remedy it. Feuding will result and undoubtedly escalate to bloodshed. This must be avoided at all cost, hence the cultural rule is no divorce...

(John Pilch, The Cultural World of Jesus, Cycle B, pp. 145-6)

You may have heard of the Indian family sentenced to death this week for murdering their daughter and her fiancee because he was of a lower caste and brought shame to their family. Such honor killings, alas, are still all too common in many parts of the world.

The point is, when marriage is talked about in the Bible it is frequently in a very different context than our own, so we should be careful not to make pronouncements about it too easily. Not only does Jesus respond to the Pharisees’ question in the context of a tightly ordered family structure which bound people together in rigid, often deadly ways, but then he refers back to the creation story in Genesis, to God’s intention for human community and relationships. "But from the beginning of creation, God made them male and female. For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh."

Now, as the opponents of same-gender marriage like to say, this refers to Adam and Eve and not Adam and Steve, but that is an argument from silence. This story is seeking to answer the question, Where did human beings come from and why are things the way they are? By simple observation, one could see that male and female were necessary to grow the race. God’s intention, therefore, must have been for male and female to join together "and become one flesh." It really doesn’t conceive of, let alone address, the issue of same-gender relationships; and we know that Jesus also said nothing about them.

Setting up tests, setting up others so that you can separate yourself from them, was not what Jesus was about. Over and over, he sought to create community, to build bridges, to connect people with each other, with God, with their true selves. When the fabric of community was torn or shredded, the result was always heartbreak–it still is–, and it was never God’s intention for human beings.

So I see Jesus’ teaching on divorce in that context. "It is not right for the earth creature to be alone," God says in the second creation story. We are created for relationship. Whenever we enter into an intimate relationship with another, with all the risks and vulnerability that entails, we "tie the knot" of one part of that fabric. When we in the church bless a wedding, we affirm that God is the third party in that relationship. When, for whatever reason–neglect, abuse, growing in different directions, mistake from the get-go, one or both partners’ lack of commitment, stress, human failing, whatever–when the relationship between two people fails, it tears the thread. It results in various levels of pain.

We know that that level of pain can get ratcheted up by nasty divorce proceedings and bitter battles. Nobody wins there. But what I think Jesus is also saying here is that it’s not really possible to "sunder" what God has joined together; there’s no such thing as leaving a relationship behind as though it never happened. It did. We are part of each other, and god is still a party in the relationship. When I meet with couples who are getting married for a second or third time, I always ask about their former partners because they are in this marriage too. Divorce is a legal proceeding. Connection is a sacred design.

"Connection is why we’re here," says sociologist and TED Talk speaker Dr. Brene Brown. In her collection of hundreds of stories about vulnerability and connection, she concludes that what unravels connection is shame, which she defines as the fear of disconnection–Is there something about me that makes people not want to connect with me? Isn’t that part of the shame that some people feel when they are divorced? Is there something about me that is unloveable, that’s not worthy of connection? For those of us who have never been married, maybe never been in an intimate relationships, that may also be the fear or even the shame–that there’s something about me not worthy of connection.

Out of all the stories she collected about vulnerability and shame, Dr. Brown decided to focus on those people who, despite it all, still had a sense of worthiness about themselves and a strong sense of love and belonging. The main difference between them and those who didn’t was simply–or not so simply–that they believed they were worthy of love and belonging. They approached life with a whole-heartedness. And what they all had in common was courage, from the Latin root for heart–to tell the story of who you are with your whole heart –the courage to be imperfect. They had the compassion to be kind to themselves and others. They made connections as a result of their authenticity, being true to themselves. They fully embraced their vulnerability, and in fact they believed that what made them vulnerable made them beautiful. "Connection is why we’re here."

Regardless of our marital status, all of us experience vulnerability. The threads of the fabric are so beautiful yet also so fragile. In just a moment, everything can change. Yet the threads are also so intricately woven together, that the fabric of life is unimaginably strong. Our vulnerability is, indeed, what makes us beautiful, part of a greater Beauty. We can all learn to live wholeheartedly.

Rather than being a ticket to security, marriage is an exercise in vulnerability, to entrust yourself to, throw your lot in with, another person. It is to risk loving, which is always risky–that person may reject you, or change, or hurt you, or die. Whole-hearted living involves the risk of heartbreak.

I actually imagine God as heartbroken much of the time, heart-broken at our turning away from our truth, heart-broken at our hard-heartedness, our cruelty and neglect of one another and the earth, heart-broken at our wall-building obsession instead of our bridge-building calling.

So God is an expert in broken heartedness. Our broken hearts are not alien to God, are no barrier to God. Because God is also an expert in whole-heartedness. God is always patching up the fabric, re-tying the threads, adding a strand of shocking beauty when we least expect it. Always widening the circle to let another in.

That’s what Jesus did when the disciples tried to keep the children away. Children were the least powerful, the most vulnerable, the ones often sent by the adults in that culture to wander into homes or gatherings to find out secrets. "Let the children come to me," Jesus said. I’ve got nothing to hide and everything to share.

The invitation to connection, to community, extends to everyone who wants to come. This is the welcome table. Here’s as good a statement of welcome as I’ve seen–it comes from Our Lady of Lourdes Catholic Community in Daytona Beach, FL--

 

We extend a special welcome to those who are single, married, divorced, gay, filthy rich, dirt poor, yo no habla Ingles. We extend a special welcome to those who are crying new-borns, skinny as a rail or could afford to lose a few pounds.

We welcome you if you can sing like Andrea Bocelli or like our pastor who can’t carry a note in a bucket. You’re welcome here if you’re "just browsing," just woke up or just got out of jail. We don’t care if you’re more Catholic than the Pope, or haven’t been in church since little Joey’s baptism.

We extend a special welcome to those who are over 60 but not grown up yet, and to teenagers who are growing up too fast. We welcome soccer moms, NASCAR dads, starving artists, tree-huggers, latte-sippers, vegetarians, junk-food eaters. We weclome those who are in recovery or still addicted. We welcome you if you’re having problems or you’re down in the dumps or if you don’t like "organized religion," we’ve been there too.

If you blew all your offering money at the dog track, you’re welcome here. We offer a special welcome to those who think the earth is flat, work too hard, don’t work, can’t spell, or because grandma is in town and wanted to go to church.

We welcome those who are inked, pierced or both. We offer a special welcome to those who could use a prayer right now, had religion shoved down your throat as a kid or got lost in traffic and wound up here by mistake. We welcome tourists, seekers and doubters, bleeding hearts...and you!

"Let the children come to me," Jesus said. I’ve got nothing to hide and everything to share. Everything that I have and everything that I am is yours.

Here--This is my body, broken for you. This is my blood, the cup of the new covenant in my blood, poured out for you and for everyone for the forgiveness of sin, or, another way of putting is, for the repairing of the breach between you and God and one another. All are welcome here.

                                                                                                                                     Rev. Mary H. Lee-Clark
"Who’s in and what’s ‘in’?"-- Mark 9: 38-50-- Sept. 30, 2012

"Who’s in and what’s ‘in’?"-- Mark 9: 38-50-- Sept. 30, 2012

This passage from Mark is just one of the many reasons I am not a fundamentalist, or someone who takes the Bible literally. And, in fact, nobody really is a true Biblical literalist. As John Dominic Crossan puts it so nicely, "Just because Jesus is the Lamb of God doesn’t mean that Mary had a little lamb."

If we were to take this passage from Mark literally, every Christian congregation– evangelical, progressive, conservative, liberal–would be full of torsos with no hands or feet and faces with eyes gouged out. I’m not sure how big that would go over with the television stations.

"If any of you put a stumbling-block before one of these little ones who believe in me, [Jesus said] it would better for you if a great millstone were hung around your neck and you were thrown into the sea. If your hand causes you to stumble, cut it off; it is better for you to enter life maimed than to have two hands and to go to hell, to the unquenchable fire. And if your foot causes you to stumble, cut it off; it is better for you to enter life lame than to have two feet and to be thrown into hell. And if your eye causes you to stumble, tear it out; it is better for you to enter the kingdom of God with one eye than to have two eyes and to be thrown into hell, where their worm never dies, and the fire is never quenched."

There is a form of proverbial wisdom, one Biblical scholar explains, "called the ‘better than’ proverb. It presents two sharply opposed choices, one of which is clearly good and the other clearly not." (Alyce McKenzie, Edgy Exegesis, 9/24/12) "A good name is to be chosen rather than great riches, and favor is better than silver or gold" (Prov. 22:1) is one example from the book of Proverbs. "Better is open rebuke than hidden love." (Prov. 27:5)

This, of course, was part of the wisdom tradition in which Jesus grew up. And, in good Jewish tradition, he took the form and made it his own–he "borrowed their forms and used them in edgy ways to subvert conventional wisdom’s do’s and don’ts." (McKenzie, op cit.) The sharp-tongued preacher in the book of Ecclesiastes did the same thing– "I thought the dead who have already died, [he wrote] more fortunate than the living, who are still alive, but better than both is the one who has not yet been and has not seen the evil deeds that are done under the sun." (Eccl. 9:18)

Jesus was schooled in that tradition, but as Alyce McKenzie writes, "What Jesus does is take a traditional proverbial form used to offer clear-cut options and adds a dash of paradox and big dollop of hyperbole...The paradox is that he presents something clearly painful and distasteful [being drowned in the sea, or cutting off your hand or your foot] as the better choice. He uses hyperbole by exaggerating the choice to the Nth degree–all these self-amputations are better than being whole in hell." (Op cit.)

"These are not legal rules meant to be enforced literally as general regulations [another scholar explains]. They are meant to make us look at human behavior in a whole new way." (Robert Tannehill, cited by McKenzie, op cit.)

When people (we) exaggerate, we are stretching the truth. "When I was your age, I walked to school everyday, 5 mi. each way, uphill all the way, carrying my sister, who was pregnant at the time." That’s hyperbole, exaggeration, stretching the truth. But here, Jesus means to show us how really destructive our actions can be. It really matters if the way you act or what you say causes someone else who’s still searching for faith or trust in God to turn away from God. "People were so offended by Jesus’ exaggeration, [McKenzie writes] not because it wasn’t true, but because it was." (Ibid.)

This YouTube video defaming the prophet Mohammed that has caused so much uproar and violence is an example of how what we say or do in the name of God really matters. It can have devastating consequences. We tend to think that religion is just a topic for conversation, maybe steering away from off-color religious jokes, but, you know, it’s just religion. Obviously, it’s not just religion and certainly not a joke for millions and millions of people, not only fundamentalist Muslims but for millions of Jews who were killed in the Holocaust because of their religion. It was literally a matter of life and death.

And while we must defend free speech, as President Obama said this week, with the ability now at the touch of a button to spread lies and hatred all over the world, we need to examine and perhaps update both our understanding of free speech and of what we will take offense at, while at the same time, condemning violence against innocents in all cases.

This whole discussion of Jesus’ about the consequences of putting stumbling blocks in front of "little ones" is framed here in Mark in the context (not surprisingly) of community. What are the obligations of community and what are the limits of that community?

The disciples have just complained that they saw someone casting out demons in Jesus’ name who was not in their group. Jesus tells them to expand their notion of "group." "Whoever is not against us is for us," he told them. For Jesus, connection is paramount. The alternative is to be in hell. How different a sense of community that is from the statement made during the War in Iraq–"If you’re not with us, you’re against us." That kind of statement puts up walls, whereas Jesus’ statement builds bridges. In a religiously super-charged world, we can and should be building bridges with moderate Muslims, Jews, and atheists, instead of merely returning violence for violence against radical Islamists. In a politically super-charged season and country, with extremists at both ends of the political spectrum hurling venom and lies at each other, we can and should be building bridges and supporting those willing to engage in conversation across the aisles. "Whoever is not against us is for us," Jesus said. Build allies. Build community.

And what is the nature of that community? Is it "anything is ok"? Is it so open-minded as to be empty? Hardly. "Everyone will be salted with fire," Jesus said. "Salt is good; but if salt has lost its saltiness, how can you season it? Have salt in yourselves, and be at peace with one another."

What makes us "salty"? What is the nature of our community? Is it our radical hospitality? Is it our "friendliness"? Is it our commitment to mission, at least to financially support all kinds of mission projects? What is it? Or, Have we lost our saltiness, or is it diluted? How are we different from any other service club? What flavor and spice to we bring to our community, to our own lives? These are all important questions. "Everyone will be salted with fire," Jesus said. "Salt is good; but if salt has lost its saltiness, how can you season it? Have salt in yourselves, and be at peace with one another."

A group of ministers, laypeople, artists, musicians, and their children, initially from the Old South UCC Church in Boston, have gotten together to form what they call "The Salt Project." On their website, they explain that they are "dedicated to reclaiming and sharing the beauty of Christian life through film, photography, music, poetry and ideas. We aim to build a community of conversation and resource-sharing that, like salt itself, preserves and seasons the best and most beautiful of the Christian tradition." I urge you, if you do this sort of thing, to check out their website at saltproject.org. What might our "salt project" look like?

"Everyone will be salted by fire," Jesus said. When potters throw salt into the kiln, they know that salt alters the surface of the pot in ways that cannot be entirely predicted or controlled. "The potter has to trust that when the salt is given to the fire [one artist explains], it will do its work; that, blessed by the intention and focus the potter brings, the salt will make a way for the wild beauty that will come." (Jan Richardson, Painted Prayerbook, 9/25/12)

"If salt has lost its saltiness," Jesus said, "how can you season it? Have salt in yourselves, and be at peace with one another." "One another" is not just with the two people sitting on either side of you. Community is much bigger than that, including those you might not expect to be included. But that’s the kind of salty community Jesus formed and is forming. It’s so important that it’s worth giving an arm and a leg for.

So may we receive – and be– this blessing from artist Jan Richardson, called "Blessing of Salt and Fire"–

And so, in this season,

may we give ourselves

to the fire

that shows us

what is elemental

and sacramental,

that reveals what remains

after all that does not have

substance or savor

falls away.

May we turn

our eyes

our ears

our hands

to the beauty

for which we were formed

and bear with grace

the patterns

that blossom upon us

who live salted

and singed.

(Ibid.)

May it be so. Amen

Rev. Mary H. Lee-Clark

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